This has been playing on my mind for days. Authentic consistency feels so comfortable to put on and wear. It's not forced, but it does feel alien given every structure and society we grow up with and live in. So even though it feels entirely right, it feels wrong at the same time.
Yep, patriarchy, supremacy says, 'you're doing it wrong.' No wonder it feels wrong. It feels unsafe, and unfamiliar. When we are wrong for being comfortable in our own skin, we have a long way to go as a society.
But also, I can't help being wrong. 💛 (And when I say this, I say as someone who has managed to process their shame to the point where it doesn't feel so wrong to be 'wrong.' I can't say I feel or behave the same in every context; but I know in myself that I no longer feel wrongness for being 'inconsistent', 'wrong,' or out of sync. And that's huge. That's my personal victory.)
Love this, Kathryn! I've been exploring the idea of consistency too, especially in the realm of feminine vs masculine energy. I view masculine energy as information + data based. This kind of energy thrives in a traditional 9-5 capitalistic space. But feminine energy, which is more intuition based, thrives in a more fluid state (or authentic consistency, like you say). Definitely makes me think about how I best thrive and when! Thanks so much for sharing.
Hah, reminds me of how good I was at 'masculine energy' -- and how difficult it at first felt to reconcile this with 'feminine energy.' Now I love how they can intertwine!
This has been playing on my mind for days. Authentic consistency feels so comfortable to put on and wear. It's not forced, but it does feel alien given every structure and society we grow up with and live in. So even though it feels entirely right, it feels wrong at the same time.
Yep, patriarchy, supremacy says, 'you're doing it wrong.' No wonder it feels wrong. It feels unsafe, and unfamiliar. When we are wrong for being comfortable in our own skin, we have a long way to go as a society.
But also, I can't help being wrong. 💛 (And when I say this, I say as someone who has managed to process their shame to the point where it doesn't feel so wrong to be 'wrong.' I can't say I feel or behave the same in every context; but I know in myself that I no longer feel wrongness for being 'inconsistent', 'wrong,' or out of sync. And that's huge. That's my personal victory.)
Love this, Kathryn! I've been exploring the idea of consistency too, especially in the realm of feminine vs masculine energy. I view masculine energy as information + data based. This kind of energy thrives in a traditional 9-5 capitalistic space. But feminine energy, which is more intuition based, thrives in a more fluid state (or authentic consistency, like you say). Definitely makes me think about how I best thrive and when! Thanks so much for sharing.
Hah, reminds me of how good I was at 'masculine energy' -- and how difficult it at first felt to reconcile this with 'feminine energy.' Now I love how they can intertwine!
It’s a tough balance for sure, but totally possible I think!