So true, often when we get good news our brain automatically jumps to fear/disappointment. I've been asked to appear on more podcasts lately, but after each request comes in, it can be immediately followed by, what if they change their minds? What if I'm not articulate on the day? What if it gets cancelled? I realised last year that all of this could still be true, the next post could tank or the podcast host could cancel me, but that doesn't need to take away from the fact that when I get that good news, I can enjoy it fully. If it doesn't work out, who cares? It was exciting and lovely to be asked, and now I can finally allow myself to feel it, without the worry of it going wrong.
Ahaha, rings true. I used to always jump to the “what if (it goes wrong) - and how do I prepare for that?” scenario. I wanted to protect myself from disappointment *before* it happened. Before I would feel the ‘full force’ of ‘full-blown’ disappointment. Now I’ve learned I can feel the full force. Disappointment doesn’t kill us -- but it takes a whole load of self-trust to feel that 🌿 And now we can feel everything -- and that means the joys too ✨
So true, often when we get good news our brain automatically jumps to fear/disappointment. I've been asked to appear on more podcasts lately, but after each request comes in, it can be immediately followed by, what if they change their minds? What if I'm not articulate on the day? What if it gets cancelled? I realised last year that all of this could still be true, the next post could tank or the podcast host could cancel me, but that doesn't need to take away from the fact that when I get that good news, I can enjoy it fully. If it doesn't work out, who cares? It was exciting and lovely to be asked, and now I can finally allow myself to feel it, without the worry of it going wrong.
Ahaha, rings true. I used to always jump to the “what if (it goes wrong) - and how do I prepare for that?” scenario. I wanted to protect myself from disappointment *before* it happened. Before I would feel the ‘full force’ of ‘full-blown’ disappointment. Now I’ve learned I can feel the full force. Disappointment doesn’t kill us -- but it takes a whole load of self-trust to feel that 🌿 And now we can feel everything -- and that means the joys too ✨