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I’m currently obsessed with making a playlist.
I’m hardly ever obsessed about anything. And yet this playlist has got me.
Part of me is trying to ignore it. After all, I have work to do.
But also, a part of me just wants to play the fucking playlist. Play it over and over again until I get the mood right; the cadence right; the sensations as you move from song to words to rhythm and energy, right.
I’ll know it when I hear it. And until then, I’ll keep practising. Keep tweaking. Keep experimenting.
This sounds dangerously like perfectionism — and I can’t tell you the difference from the outside; but inside I know that whatever I’m doing isn’t driven by fear. I’m not afraid of getting it wrong. I just want it to move me.
I recently realised I have 10 working weeks until the end of the year.
And in this moment I am asking myself two questions:
What is your core intention?
What is your creative ambition?
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I try not to think too hard when I ask these kind of questions. This is *not* a puzzle or problem to solve.
“…this is a joy to behold. This is a desire, a wanting. A longing, be-longing.”
So I go with my gut and the first words that pop out my mouth are: Have Fun.
Have Fun. Enjoy the Romance.
These are the words that encapsulate the desire I have for the next 10-14 weeks; from now until the end of the year.
These are the words that best capture the feeling of wanting to move with the work and the love and the energy I cannot describe. But I know the feeling; and that’s the important part.
Here’s something else I’m telling myself: “You don’t have to send out this newsletter by the end of today. You don’t have to send out this newsletter in the next few hours, before you have your client calls.”
And funnily enough, I know that by saying that — and believing it — I have increased the likelihood of my sending out my newsletter tenfold.
Because writing my newsletter is fun. Pressure to send it out is not fun.
But I know I want to write it. So that’s what I rely on. The romance of writing this letter. To you. From me.
In the middle of writing this letter I wanted to play my playlist. Don’t get me wrong, there is still resistance even when we’re doing the thing we want to do.
Neither piece is resolved. And I can sense that I’m itching to finish both. But also, I can’t rush it. I can’t do it all at once — because I need to see what comes out as I go. I need to listen and notice and tweak. I need to allow space for it and me to breathe.
All this is to say, having fun and enjoying the romance isn’t a passive process. This is a very involved process. This isn’t any less work — simply because you happen to be enjoying yourself at the same time.
What I would offer, is that taking your time isn’t a cop-out. Enjoying yourself isn’t a burden. Creating your work is a privilege and a mastery that will take a lifetime.
May you feel the romance.
Love,
Kathryn.
PS. I like you.
Hey, I’m running birthday coaching sessions again!
If you don’t know what a birthday coaching session is, here’s a quick rundown:
You get a free coaching session. (Up to 90 mins.) On any topic.
Because even though it’s not my birthday (my birthday is in February — so nowhere near close), I love fucking love coaching. And it’s great to give and share the things you love — especially with such amazing people I get to coach.
To get a free session, just fill out this form. It takes 10 seconds. (Because it’s literally just your name and email.)
By the end our time together you will feel more peaceful, more at ease with yourself, and ready to move forward with a renewed intention. You will feel more coherent and aligned with yourself, and the work you want to do.
So please, fill out this form, if it moves you — and I look forward to coaching together.
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