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Many years ago I read a poem about receiving.
I call it a poem; it’s actually a prayer.
It’s by Tosha Silver and it goes like this:
Abundance Change me Prayer
Divine Beloved, allow me to give with complete ease and abundance, knowing that You are the unlimited Source of all.Let me be an easy, open conduit for Your prosperity.
Let me trust that all my own needs are always met in amazing ways
and that it’s safe to give freely as my heart guides.
And equally, let me feel wildly open to receiving.
May I know my own value, beauty, and worthiness without question.
Let me allow others the supreme pleasure of giving to me.
May I feel worthy to receive in every possible way.
Change me into one who can fully love, forgive, and accept myself
So I may carry Your Light without restriction.
Let everything that needs to go, go.
Let everything that needs to come, come.
I am utterly Your own.
You are me, I am You, We are One.
All is well.
— Tosha Silver
I encourage you to read it slowly; and see if any particular sentences jump out at you.
For me, it was this:
“May I feel worthy to receive in every possible way.”
“Holy. F**k”
Because I did NOT feel worthy to receive in almost any, let alone every, possible way.
I did not.
And I wanted to change that.
Let me say here that I don’t know ‘the secret’ to changing yourself into someone who feels wildly open to receiving all the time. I have not yet cracked that code.
But, I do believe, that with practice, we can all become more tolerant of receiving; and not only that, we can find the genuine love and pleasure that comes with letting a gift land on us.
Firstly, practise with the idea that you may be open to receiving.
I know this maybe sounds silly, but even opening yourself to the possibility of something makes it more likely to stick and feel true.
Secondly, can you think of a time when you received something for free?
Can you think of a time when someone gave you something — a gift, perhaps — that you were genuinely open to receiving?
And can you think of that moment, and how you felt?
Can you remember that moment and bring it to you?
Can you feel what it feels like to receive something… just because you are?
Here’s another way to look at it: If you can’t think of a memory where you received something from someone, imagine the sun.
Imagine yourself in sunshine. (Or if you hate sunshine, rain.)
Imagine yourself receiving the warm glow of sunshine. Freely.
You do not need to have earned that sunshine. You get to experience it because you do.
Now, here’s a question: If you can receive the sunshine, what else can you receive?
What else can be open to you? What else can you be open to receiving?
This may sound like a weird practice — but sometimes the first step is just in remembering we’re allowed. We’re allowed to feel the sensation of receiving, just because.
And when we can practise that, we can practise that feeling in other places; in other contexts. We can practise the idea that we might be allowed to receive that compliment, that sign of recognition, freely.
And how wonderful would a world be if we could all receive the gifts we give each other, freely. ?
May you receive without restriction. May you know you are worthy. May you find and enjoy your delicious, abundance pear 🍐
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I love this Kathryn! Learning to receive was a massive one for me just this Summer, I had no idea I had actually totally shut myself off to it. I even wrote a post on Instagram about it here: https://www.instagram.com/p/Ci2tmW-qmu-/ I think it's something so many women can relate to especially, we always just give give give.