Dating app non-disappointment

An update

Kathryn Ho

Aug 05, 2022

This is a screenshot from my dating profile.

Putting it out there felt like a bit of a risk. After all, it’s quite vulnerable, while also being very me.

(And not every person is going to get me. )

However, I decided to go with it. Because I knew that whoever did get it, would probably be perfect for me.

Not long after I matched with someone, they told me:

“I think the first comment on your profile was the one that caught my eye most of all.
It made me smile and got across your sense of humour.
I’ve not been disappointed in that being a fair representation of you.”

#result.

PS! That’s all that marketing is. A promise of who you are and how you’ll show up for someone... And the relationship that blossoms as a result.

Whether you’re on a dating app, social media, or email... Whether you’re looking to have your heart broken or whether you want to work with awesome human beings...

Show up as you.

Be brave enough to make a stand for who you are and trust the right people will find you.

They’ll not be disappointed 😉

UPDATE: I sent this email January 2022. I still reflect on it from time to time… because I happen to be rather fond of the person I met all those months ago, and the unique relationship we have cultivated together.

The other day I sent them a message that I loved them, “…but in a very limited and specific way — so that makes it okay.”

They told me: “A limited and specific way is such a fun way of putting it. I also love you in the same way.”

💛

Oh, another thing. ‘dating app non-disappointment’ is such a terrible misleading title. Because OF COURSE you’re going to be disappointed on dating apps. It goes with the territory. It goes with the business of being human.

I am super grateful for the experience though. Because, don’t know about you, I could always use more opportunities to be disappointed. (To practise disappointment, and know I won’t die.)

I could always use more opportunities to be surprised, too.

🌱