Here’s a fun story for you 11 days into January…
I used to have a very mean voice inside my head.
I used to think I was broken.
I used to think I was uniquely flawed.
I used to think I was ‘beyond saving.’
I went to a lot of counselling. It worked! (🥳)
But it didn’t get rid of the mean voices inside my head.
It lowered the volume and frequency. It got me on an even keel. Counselling got me to a place where I could continue my studies, get my degree, and graduate into a good job. For that, I am forever grateful.
But, years later, I got depressed again.
This time, counselling didn’t work so well.
I knew I had issues with ‘wasting time’ (one of my ultimate fears). I knew I was incredibly self-critical.
And yes, I could get myself to a place of ‘not-depressed.’
But… I kinda wanted more…?
It took me a long time to change my relationship with myself.
It took a lot of learning, falling back, moving forward, wondering if anything was changing, questioning slow progress…
As is often the way!
And then, one day, many years ago now…
I realised I had hardly any critical thoughts about myself.
I realised I had ‘done it.’
I’d gotten there, and hadn’t even really noticed.
Even though, I was changing all the time.
I still changed lots afterwards, too.
(Turns out, there’s loads of progress you can make when you don’t have a critical voice inside your head!)
At the risk of this story getting too long, here’s what I want to say:
Your progress will never be linear.
You’ll make change and progress WITHOUT EVEN NOTICING.
There is always more to learn.
There is always more to come.
Happy new year. It’s a long journey. We get to take our time 💛
ALSO, if any of what I have said has resonated, you may be interested in a programme I have on offer.
It’s… all about working with and changing the critical voice.
It’s for creatives and creative individuals. And it’s for people who want to change the relationship they have with themselves, for good… whilst also recognising this is a never-ending work-in-progress.
It gives you the tools and experience, and guide (me!) to help you navigate your current relationship with your (inner) critical voice, and change it into something far more supportive and loving.
This is the work I have done for a long while now. And it’s the very best work I do with my clients.
So this year, I’m consolidating it into a ‘proper coaching programme:’
1:1 coaching
16 x 1 hour sessions
Over a period of 5 months
Lots of tools and resources
ALL in the service of helping you change the voices in your head. So you can feel more freedom and ease in yourself and your work.
This is honestly the work I love. And I love helping clients with their personal transformations.
Here’s what Nady said recently about how working together had made a difference to her:
“How I relate to myself has changed completely.
I can do more, I can do things I’m scared of. Even though I’m scared, I can still do it. That’s the difference.
{When we started working together} I was very self-critical and had a lot of internal conflict. Now I have a loving relationship with myself. I can listen to myself and feel connected.
{Our work} has also shifted my mind and nervous system. I can regulate much better.
This is the first time in my life, in the city, in the past 8 years, that I finally felt at home.
Everything feels really different. Even the food tastes different! My life is more colourful.”
When you change your relationship to your inner critic, you aren’t going to suddenly ‘10x your business.’
But I wholeheartedly believe that you get something almost just as good 😉
You get a much kinder, loving relationship with yourself.
Which, not gonna lie… I think is pretty priceless?
Currently all yours for the early-bird price of £680 (or 4 payments of £170)
If interested, you can check out the entire sales page here.
Best wishes and much love,
Kathryn
I really resonate with the fear of wasting time. Sadly, that’s something that still follows me around - for good, and bad. It’s a constant balance of wanting to strive forward and accepting rest, and where I’m at now. Happy New Year Kathryn!